I Have All The Time I Need
Seeing that it is the first of the year, and you are probably back into the groove of the routines of life, this is the perfect time to discuss TIME. So, let me ask you a few things:
- Do you feel stretched too thin?
- Do you ever feel really busy but not productive?
- Do you feel overwhelmed and exhausted?
- Do you feel not in control of your plans and schedule?
- Do you go on Facebook with the plan to only spend five minutes and then realize an hour has passed?
- Do you feel like there is never enough time in the day?
According to Einstein, time doesn’t really exist. We think of time as something we manage, but really, the only thing that exists is the moment of NOW. Longfellow says, “What is time? The shadow on a dial, the striking of the clock, the running of the sand, day and night, summer and winter, months, years, centuries – these are but arbitrary and outward signs of the measure of time, not time itself. Time is the life of the soul.”
For over 15 years I was climbing the ladder of corporate America and getting more and more stressed out by the minute. I would constantly find myself stretched too thin, but when asked to tackle a new project or take on more responsibility, I would constantly hear myself say, “YES.” I would spend my day rushing from one meeting to another, trying to please everyone and get it all done. As a result, my work became very unsatisfying. I could never get it all done, and it felt like I was not really moving the ball forward on the big initiatives. Through the Next Level Achievement SystemTM, I knew what I needed to be doing, but I was too busy or too stressed out to slow down and create the space to move into proactive thought. Therefore, I was reacting to everything that was thrown at me. I knew something had to change!
We think about 70,000 thoughts per day, and 90% of those thoughts are the same thoughts we thought yesterday. Your brain desperately wants to be right, and it will find situations to make sure it is right, so you have to be careful with what you are telling your brain. If you are constantly telling yourself, “I am stressed out, I am overwhelmed, or I don’t have enough time,” your brain will create the exact scenarios for you to be RIGHT.
I had a wonderful person share with me a new mantra I needed to live by. The mantra was, “I have all the time I need.” At first this little mantra was ridiculous to me! My rational mind could not comprehend this concept at first. Of course, there is not enough time; there is never enough time! There are deadlines looming, meetings to prepare for, emails to answer, text messages to respond to, bills to pay, errands to run, etc. I thought you could never get it all done unless you were super woman.
Well, we all know that personal change usually happens slowly, but if you are seeking, something amazing just might land in your path. So, I started to create an awareness around my thinking about “time,” and I started to apply this mantra to my everyday life. I started to notice shifts. It comforted me tremendously. This was a life-changing way of thinking for me, especially for someone who was always trying to do it all. Here are some things I noticed if you truly believe you have all the time you need:
- You do not hurry.
- You make better decisions.
- You are kinder to yourself and to others.
- You have more patience.
- You are more present in the moment of NOW.
I definitely do not view this mantra as a free pass to waste time, or not meet deadlines, or not go after your goals with gusto. On the contrary, it’s a centering practice that draws me back to what is truly important in my personal and professional life – to what is truly essential.
The book ESSENTIALISM defines essentialism as the following: “It is more than a time management strategy. It is a discipline for discerning what is absolutely essential, then eliminating everything that is not, so we can make the highest possible contribution toward the things that really matter. This is not about saying “NO” more. It is about pausing constantly to ask, “Am I investing in the right activities?” This requires us to be constantly in intentional and proactive thought. Not just reacting to everything that comes at us.” You learn how to tell the difference between what is truly important and everything else. It is no longer about getting everything done – it is about getting the “right” things done. Sometimes the “right” thing for me is to just pause, center myself and be in the present moment. And trust me, this is not always easy with the high achiever part in me.
I believe you can have it all and live a life of abundance if you become a master planner and create awareness about your thoughts about time. Just imagine what would happen to your personal and professional life if you eliminated one non-essential activity and replaced it with something truly essential. And the next time you find yourself hurrying, or getting caught up in fear and anxiety, or feeling like you can’t get it all done, just take a deep breath and say the words, “I HAVE ALL THE TIME I NEED!”
In love and gratitude,
Jenni Byrd Grier, President of David Byrd Consulting, is an accomplished International speaker with more than 15 years of corporate management and leadership experience as well as an MBA in International Business. Jenni is a life-changing Next Level Achievement™ Coach who will help you create a vision, live life with intentionality, set goals and make them happen. You can find more information on personalized coaching with Jenni here.